https:\/\/topadultreview.com\/<\/a> Talking about Moms and Exes. Look. Both items are crucial topics to be dealt with in time. My relationship with my mom has ups and downs, like a quantity of folks. Bitching about my mom isn’t likely to get me into your pants now, is it? Also, while I’m quite fond of my ex, I shouldn’t be talking about her with you on the first few dates. If you would like ask me how that relationship ended, that’s okay, but if I go on and on about her, that should be a red flag. In fact, you may be wise to back off initiating a talk on that subject, unless you’re trying to gauge what sort of dude you’re dealing with.<\/p>\n approaches to Let a Dude Down Be honest \u00e2\u20ac\u201d Tell the guy \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I’m just not feeling any chemistry here\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and be done with it. It’s not easy, but it’s direct and will get your point across. The One Armed Hug \u00e2\u20ac\u201d Hold your face away, look away, throw a quick one-armed hug around the dude after the date, if you’re not interested. Bonus points if you give him a hi-five instead. That’s such a dick move and one I find hot\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Just not when it’s done to me. =) If your date didn’t get that you weren’t interested and you don’t want to be a complete bitch and ignore him. Reply in way that doesn’t invite conversation. Close-ended responses are the best approach in my opinion. You’re not leaving things open to conversation and you get to not be a total bitch to some random fucker. Really, just see #1 and do that, bitch!<\/p>\n
Gosh! Letting Someone Know You Want More\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Inevitably you’re going to meet a guy who isn’t a dork, who fucks you right and makes you yearn for him and consider the possibility of a real future. Good for you, asshole! You’re a winner! =) But how do you let a guy know that you’re anxious about him, want him to wear a chastity belt and basically do your bidding without sounding like a complete psycho-bitch head case with daddy issues? Well, as a guy, I think it’s pretty easy. What it comes down to, for a woman, is that she wants to know that this guy is actually a good guy. She wants to know she picked someone who will be true; who won’t judge her and that wants to be a partner in crime. Fair enough.<\/p>\n
At some point we all want that. Have the talk, if you feel like you need to have the talk. I honestly don’t get women who are afraid to talk about how they feel to the guy they’re dating. He’s either into your, or he isn’t. You talking to him will either bring you closer, or send you off on a quest for Mr. Right, again. How is this a bad thing???Tell the guy that you like him, that you really want to take things to the \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcnext level’ and see where things go. Communicate what you want. It’s likely that you’re not looking to just fuck around, so state that. If a guy is on the same level, he’ll be relieved and if he isn’t \u00c2\u00a0a complete boob he will communicate his feelings as well. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153But what if he’s just not ready?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Well, that happens. And I encourage you to be patient. But if you need to know, girl, then you need to know and you need to put yourself nowadays. If a guy can’t commit, it’s his loss and you need to move on. Introduce the guy to your family.<\/p>\n
This is the step beyond introducing him to your friends. When you introduce a guy to your family that’s telling to him, unless he’s a complete nincompoop incapable of discerning social cues. If that’s the case, you lose, find another dude. But, I’d say that bringing him around your family, or at least giving him the option to hang around your family should tell you if he’s ready for something more serious. What does he do? I’m adamant here. His actions tell a story. Whatever it is that he does; whatever his actions are, they will draw you closer, or push you apart. That’s just nature, kids. If he’s doing things to bring you closer together, having the talk should be a no-brainer. If you can’t tell, then you probably have more issues than a magazine stand and you are your own fucking problem. iF that’s you GTFO and fix yourself!!! Hopefully these tips help you navigate the waters of online dating. If they help, let me know!<\/p>\n
Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides Soon it’ll be Valentine\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Day, the holiday devoted to celebrating and affirming love.<\/p>\n
Just Friends? Turning a Good Friendship into a Successful Relationship<\/h2>\n
For many couples, this means candlelit dinners out, movies in, or romantic trips for two.\u00c2\u00a0 Couples in long-distance relationships, however, are not always as lucky. Sound familiar? If your significant other is across the state, country, as well as ocean this Valentine\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Day, consider spending the day assessing which staying-connected techniques have worked best in your long-distance relationship. Even better? Invest in one or more of the following apps, which were created to document, strengthen, and add some amusement to every couple\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s relationship. Avocado Turns out, avocados grow in pairs. Likewise, their trees produce fruit when grown near each other.<\/p>\n
Taking inspiration from the loving nature of avocados, Avocado is an adorable\u00c2\u00a0app for couples wishing to privately and regularly keep in touch. Think of it as a virtual memory\u00c2\u00a0lane that you will create with your significant other by: Sending cute messages (\u00e2\u20ac\u0153I miss you!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d or \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Do\u00c2\u00a0you need anything at the store?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d), sharing photos, managing events in a shared calendar, and creating and sharing lists (from a grocery list to a vacation checklist). You can even send virtual hugs and kisses! The app vibrates when you place your phone against your chest or when you kiss (\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6or tap on) a picture of your significant other. HeyTell Want to leave something short and sweet for your significant other to listen to later? Download HeyTell. Like a private voicemail account for you both, the app is fast, direct, and only accessible by your significant other. Great for on-the-go couples, HeyTell offers a nice pick-me-up at any point in the day. Tokii It may seem like an odd concept to answer feelings-based questions via app, but then again your significant other\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s emotional state can be the one thing you know the least about on an hourly or daily basis. Not anymore. Tokii lets your partner know how you’re feeling, and lets you know how your partner is feeling. Answer simple \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I feel\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6\u00e2\u20ac\u009d or \u00e2\u20ac\u0153You make me feel\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6\u00e2\u20ac\u009d prompts, set your \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Daily Mood\u00e2\u20ac\u009d (on which your partner can comment), or play any one of the app’s DiscoveryGames, therefore the rest of the positive work is up to you both. Rounds Video Chat Hangout Want to hang out with your significant other on Valentine\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Day but can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t in person? Check out the Rounds Video Chat Hangout app, which allows you and your partner to chat live while also sharing media\u00e2\u20ac\u201dlistening to music, watching videos, playing games, or viewing pictures\u00e2\u20ac\u201dvia multiple viewing modes on your phone or tablet. You can even lovingly doodle on each other\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s live video streams (for instance, draw a heart next to your loved one\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s face), add video effects, or take snapshots from the live chat and share via social media. TheIceBreak: Much like Tokii, TheIceBreak is there to help you understand and get to know your partner better.<\/p>\n
The app is even offering an incentive: By answering fun questions publicly or privately, users collect Date Night Coins to exchange for local restaurant discounts! Share photos and messages on your significant other\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s private wall, and if you feel the need to voice an issue, you can even your partner\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s overall communication, support, and even your relationship satisfaction. For some, numbers carry more weight than words. Treat When you just want to be sweet, consider creating a personalized greeting card from Treat, the recently revamped app by Shutterfly. Choose from Treat\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s 900+ designs, add personal photos, and customize the text and physical delivery date (meaning you can schedule a card ahead of time so as to avoid being forgetful on the actual date). You can even include a small gift, such as a gift card or mug, for an additional cost. Though the app is free, the cards and postage have a cost. To save money, invest in the Treat Card Club, which allows you to buy a certain quantity of cards in a bundle at a discounted rate. \u00c2\u00a0 Andrea Fisher is a writer, blogger, and content specialist for DTV Packages. She has appeared in a variety of publications, including the Chicago Tribune and Business Insider. Check out more of her tips @andreafisher007 or on Google+. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin2 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: Apps, Couples Apps, LDR, long distance relationships, Relationship Apps, valentines day Dr. Fisher and numerous anthropologists, psychologists, and neurologists alike all agree that love \u00e2\u20ac\u0153on the brain,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d exists. MRI scans support that the same areas of the brain that light up when experiencing highs from drugs, light up when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re in love.<\/p>\n
Therefore, breaking up doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t act but rather, performs as addiction withdrawal. So when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re hurting like there\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s no escape, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t blame yourself. Blame your brain. After reading several studies and articles, I, someone who is currently amidst a love withdrawal herself, can find some comfort and even solutions. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s right. We can deal with heartbreak, in a practical and scientific way. Reward Love fires dopamine into your brain. In the basest terms, love may be called a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153goal-oriented motivational state.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Motivation and goal-oriented behavior reign the caudate nucleus, the brain that acts as a modulator for the dopamine reward system. The caudate is a feedback processor, using information from past memories (with loved ones) to influence future actions and decisions. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s why we all seek a feedback to kickstart that dopamine process again. Repeatedly. That kiss, touch of a hand, that misty-eyed look, that heart-racing phone call, or that sudden gut-wrenching text. It also explains why even though our partners are gone, our brain is still on \u00e2\u20ac\u0153reward-mode.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Memories remain along with the urge to keep sustaining them. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Love on the Brain\u00e2\u20ac\u009d by Rihanna I have this lovely image ( and the memories to support it) of my loved one.<\/p>\n
So to not have the continuous same happy feedback by their continued positive presence, will of course, wreak havoc on my brain. Redirect Fisher\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s research team, published in the Journal of Comparative Neurology, conducted a study in which post-break-up participants engaged in cortex-stimulating tasks like\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 \u00e2\u20ac\u0153pay[ing] your bills, balance[ing] your checkbook, play[ing] Scrabble, memorize[ing] a poem, play[ing] with Legos,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d to detract the lighting up of love-laden brain regions. Time heals. Especially, with more cortex-stimulating distractions. Awakening old passions and discovering new interests are all stimulating. They help with the break-up now, but also, in the long-run. Because your brain is spiking in other areas. Reconstruct Laslocky recalls what a scientist explained: \u00e2\u20ac\u0153In the case of a lost love,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d he told me, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153if the relationship went on for a long time, the grieving person has thousands of neural circuits devoted to the lost person, and each of these has to be brought up and reconstructed to take into account the person\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s absence.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d This extremely hits home. Countless neurons and countless triggers can remain.<\/p>\n
That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s why the no contact period effectively disrupts that \u00e2\u20ac\u0153network\u00e2\u20ac\u009d of entrenching romantic memories. It’s enlightening in that that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what memories are made up of. Just that- neurons. I’m able to remember something, yes, but also, I’m able to remember it again, with a new context and new understanding. There comes the reconstruction. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s where personal growth barges in. Well, it depends, on what stage of the break-up you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re in. The time\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6. we made out in the park, transitioned from romantic to immature to cherished to finally teachable.<\/p>\n
Reframe Love is a decision. Love is a mind-set. Breaking up ensues heartbreak. Heartbreak is still\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6a decision. Heartbreak is a mind-set. And just like any learning experience, your mind and view of love can expand with the Growth Mindset (Carol Dweck, Stanford University) as opposed to Fixed. The growth mindset is the perspective in which our character\/characteristics can continuously change ( with an upper and exponential outcome). Take that, brain! And if love, if nothing else, is really simply, a motivational reward system, why can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t we achieve something else again? Why can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t we reward ourselves again? Moving is when you Set your mind to move on.<\/p>\n
Moving on isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t the finish line but the starting line. What comes next. Is. Anything 😀 Here are references (and cortex-stimulating reads) for your benefit: https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/this_is_your_brain_on_heartbreak (Morgan & Fisher) https:\/\/elemental.medium.com\/you-can-force-yourself-to-fall-out-of-love-16c7a409909e (Laslocky & Fisher) https:\/\/www.brainpickings.org\/2014\/01\/29\/carol-dweck-mindset\/ (Popova & Dweck) Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook7Tweet0Pin2 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, For Men, For Women, Self Tagged in: #brain, #break-up, #love, #moving on, #neuroscience HIV and Sex Toys We all know that staying protected during intercourse is important, but did you know that HIV transmission is also possible by sharing sex toys? Bodily fluids remain on sex toys after usage and won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t go away until they get washed. Meaning that if one user is HIV-positive, then the virus might be passed to future users. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s uncommon, but it has unfortunately happened before. If you want to share that rabbit vibrator with your GF, BF or BFF and you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re unsure about their sexual history, then read on to find out more about how to keep yourself safe. Beware, Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t Share! When it comes to sex toys, sharing is NOT caring. You will have no risk of being infected with HIV from sex toys at all if you don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t share sex toys with anyone. If you never share your sex toys with anyone or use sex toys that belong to someone you don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t know very well, then you don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t need to worry about protecting yourself from HIV. In some cases, though, sharing is something you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll still want to do.<\/p>\n
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