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Ask the Urban Dater: Is the Grass Really Greener?<\/h1>\n

This belief is false. Maybe the person on your pedestal is more physically attractive than you. Maybe they make more money, or have more friends. Regardless, they are not better than you. The Pedestal Problem does not lie in our comparison to our lover, but rather in our intrinsic thinking that are enforced by our inner critic. The inner critic that tells us we need to buy gifts we can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t afford, or to make sacrifices we don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to make. This internal critic is also the root of social anxiety, approach anxiety and so many other issues that create anti-fun self-fulfilling prophecies. 3 Steps to Removing the Pedestal Problem from Your Life I. Self-Care \u00e2\u20ac\u201c If you struggle with the Pedestal Problem, chances are you are neglecting your own personal needs in favor of others. We can only care for others to the extent that we care for ourselves. The foundation of this care includes eating well (no sugar), getting sleep (7-9 hours) and taking care of your hygiene. The levels above include fitness, making time for friends and living your daily life according to your values and ideals. Exercise \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Pick three things you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve always wanted to do or haven\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t make time for and go do them. Take a salsa class, go on a meditation retreat, go fishing.does stripchat save videos of privates<\/a> Do things for you.<\/p>\n

You come first. II. Self-Compassion \u00e2\u20ac\u201c We can only love others to the extent that we love ourselves. Often our internal critic is a byproduct of hatred towards ourselves. The belief that who we are is not good enough. Kristen Neff, the Self-Compassion expert, has some amazing exercises that have changed some of my clients\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 lives, as well as mine. They are silly, but over time they make a big difference in how you feel about yourself. The stories you say in your head profoundly affect the way you live your daily life. Exercise: Complete Kristen Neff\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s self-compassion journal for seven days here. III. Congruence \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Building self-esteem and love for yourself also requires you to act in congruence with your heart\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s deepest desires. For example: Maybe you choose to be a doctor because it would make your parents proud, when you actually wanted to be an actor or author. By acting congruent with what we truly want, we can build up our self-worth. Exercise: What is one of your deepest desires? Tweet it to me here. The Pedestal Problem only exists in your mind and was created by the thinking you hold about yourself.<\/p>\n

Change your beliefs, determine your values, prioritize and invest in yourself. Then, like alchemy, witness the quality of your relationships completely transform. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook9Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Featured Tagged in: love, pedestal, Relationships Like it or not, online dating is here to stay. Online dating is a great way to meet plenty of men or women in a very short period of time, but a lot of people get frustrated and give up. Today I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m going to go over the most common reasons people fail at online dating. 1. Patience Dating in general takes a lot of patience.<\/p>\n

As one girl put it, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153You have to kiss lot of frogs unless you find the your prince\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. I coached a client who complained that after only three days online he wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t having any luck meeting women. He had only one photo on his profile that wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t very flattering and his profile was poorly written. My brother was online for a year before he found the women he eventually married and started a family with. You need to hang in there! Dating is a numbers game. You only need to meet any particular one special person, not ten. 2. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re Choosing the Wrong Photos Too often people use pictures of them in sunglasses, partying, far away shots or artistic pictures that really don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t tell other people anything about them. Simple rule of thumb, 3-5 pictures including full body shots, you smiling, yourself in casual and formal wear.<\/p>\n

Guys, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t take include photos of you with other women, unless it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s your sister. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll come across as a player or a guy with a wandering eye. 3. You Can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t Write A good profile most profiles have become poorly written. Everything is facts, facts, facts. Remember folks, you want to write a good profile that can make people want to contact you. Why should you do all the work, when you can write a great profile that will speak for itself and get people to contact you. Also, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t be negative in your profile, it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t help. 4. You Contact Women at the Wrong Time The worst times to contact women are on Friday or Saturday nights. People are out on those days having fun or even dating other people from the same site your on.<\/p>\n

A Body in Motion is a Sexy Body Indeed<\/h2>\n

So what\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the best day to contact women? Sunday!<\/p>\n

On a Sunday you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re usually relaxing and chances are if a girl had a bad date on friday or saturday she\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s going to go back on that dating site again looking for someone else. 5. You Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t Read People\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Profiles Many men are guilty of sending the same message to a hundred women saying \u00e2\u20ac\u0153hey, how\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s it going?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d. Each message you send should be unique and its contents should be considering what you read in the women\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s profile. You need to stick out from 95% of guys out there who have no clue how to date online. Follow me on twitter @edmontondating and if you need help with your online dating message me at [email\u00c2\u00a0protected] for a free consultation! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Valentine’s Day.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s not a day for the weak or the meek.<\/p>\n

\u00c2\u00a0 Valentine’s day will swallow you whole, man!!! It will chew you up and spit you out if you let it!!! It’s a day that has caused blood letting, unhealed scarring and untold pain.\u00c2\u00a0 Yes, it’s Valentines Day!!!! AAAAAArgh!!!\u00c2\u00a0 Ahem.\u00c2\u00a0 Sorry, you should know I have a flare for the dramatic.\u00c2\u00a0 However, Valentine’s Day is deserving of your attention, kids.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s safer to begin your groundwork early and formulate a plan and take care of some logistics.\u00e2\u20ac\u0153Utter nonsense,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d you exclaim.\u00c2\u00a0 No, kids, you really should begin thinking and planning your night out. Why?\u00c2\u00a0 Well, that’s an easy one to answer.\u00c2\u00a0 There’s no exact science of course, however, I like to break make dinner the center piece of any special date.\u00c2\u00a0 You gotta eat, after all.\u00c2\u00a0 That said, it is critical to have some places in mind to take your special someone for V day. I break it down like so Tier 1 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c These are restaurants that are hip, trendy and popular.<\/p>\n

\u00c2\u00a0 Or they could be an ordinarily popular dining destination to begin with.\u00c2\u00a0 These places are high end restaurants, think 75 dollars a plate and up to start.\u00c2\u00a0For a dinner of two you could be eclipsing the 300 buck mark right quick. The food at these places is pretty insane as well while the wine selections will\u00c2\u00a0 put a decent dent in your wallet.\u00c2\u00a0 These places are also restaurants that you’ll want to book more than a month in advance to assure yourself a table.\u00c2\u00a0 These places might be prestigious restaurants owned by prominent chefs or celebrities, or perhaps a place that has a particularly unique specialty not offered elsewhere. Tier 2 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c These restaurants, like the Tier 1 places, are probably going to be one-off places, or if it’s a chain then probably one of limited size.\u00c2\u00a0 In my area Ruth’s Chris is a popular and highly regarded steak house, it’ s a chain, but small, Fleming’s also falls into this range. The quality of food at these places will be fantastic with a price per plate around 50 dollars and up.\u00c2\u00a0 Again, drinks will burn a hole in your wallet, but remember you’re out to have a good time, so splurge a little bit.\u00c2\u00a0 Your foodie friends will be good help here and probably know a number of these types of restaurants.\u00c2\u00a0 a reservation of three weeks to a month out is a good idea to get things situated and taken care of. Tier 3 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c These places are unique interesting and take a two weeks plus to get a reservation set aside.\u00c2\u00a0 Often these places are only moderately expensive and for a dinner for two, with drinks\/wine, you could be looking at $150 or less.\u00c2\u00a0 The variety of places, I would think, are much wider in range from what you would find in pricier fare, so it’s also a little more of an adventure.\u00c2\u00a0 Sometimes places in this tier could be \u00e2\u20ac\u02dchole in the wall’ places which heightens the romantic mood of your special day.<\/p>\n

\u00c2\u00a0 In other words, taking your special someone to a place like this will certainly get that vday card punched. Tier 4 \u00e2\u20ac\u201c You pretty much dropped the ball and are resigned to taking your special someone to Olive Garden. There’s nothing wrong with Olive Garden\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 form of like there’s nothing wrong with kicking defenseless kitty cats or telling a child that their parents hate them.\u00c2\u00a0 Which can be only to say that you suck and should have thought of something better much sooner.\u00c2\u00a0 Perhaps there are other problems in the relationship that are lurking in addition to an inability to plan.\u00c2\u00a0 Olive Garden, Red Lobster are two places that fit this mold.\u00c2\u00a0 You can pretty much walk in here and get your table the night of\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Tier 2 places are the ones I like best, because they offer amazing view, unique atmospheres at prices you won’t be embarrsassed to tell your friends about.\u00c2\u00a0 Tier 1 places?\u00c2\u00a0 They are always on my radar as a rare treat, I figure I’m able to drop nearly four hunrded on a single meal once\u00c2\u00a0 a year\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Or so\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Or maybe not at all.topadultreview.com<\/a> You know what, though, I get that times are tough and regardless of that people are on a budget, too. There are other approaches to show your special someone a unique and classy night for cheaper than you might think.\u00c2\u00a0 However, planning, planning, planning; there is no replacement for planning. At this point you should begin listing out the places you want to take your Valentine’s date.\u00c2\u00a0 Whether it’s a home cooked affair or a night out at a restaurant that will eat your last pay check for a sensible midnight snack, figure out some places to go and CALL AHEAD while making a reservation.<\/p>\n

12 Dating Resolutions to Make for the newest Year<\/h2>\n<\/p>\n

I’ll be doing a follow up piece on this leading up to the special day. Until next time, don’t be a putz, make a reservation already. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook3Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas, Special, Uncategorized Tagged in: Date Ideas, dates, valentines day, vday Do you remember when you first met your significant other? The butterflies, the multiple text messages and the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153No you hang up first, No you!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d You were inseparable, passionate, intimate and interested in getting to know one another. Everything was roses\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 and happiness was spread all around\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Now, let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s fast forward a year, 5 years, 10 years or longer. How does your relationship match up from before? If it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s still wonderful congratulations! I admire your dedication and understanding of one another! If you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re like the majority of us \u00e2\u20ac\u201c things may have dwindled down a little bit from before\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6Or maybe a lot\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 FACT: About 17 percent of divorces are caused by infidelity! That’s an amazing number, considering there are so many other grounds for divorce \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 About 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives! Another study found that 2\/3 of women are not aware of their husband’s affair \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Curtesy of Fox News ( Read the full article here.) \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Link: http:\/\/magazine.foxnews.com\/love\/cheating-statistics-do-men-cheat-more-women EXCUSES: Well, we have kids now\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 I am so busy with work, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m so tired (I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m guilty of this one), and we can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t find the time to spend together\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 TRUTH: IF your relationship and connection are important to you and your spouse you will MAKE TIME. There will NEVER be a good time. REALITY: WOMEN \u00e2\u20ac\u201c As we know from reading magazines and articles \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Men and women are wired differently.<\/p>\n

Put very simply some men (more than a few) are DRAWN to the physical aspects of a relationship. Straight up, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153pillow talk.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Now, ladies, I get the fact that we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve had kids, we have careers, we are BUSY BUT if we are not fulfilling our partners needs then we are on our way to becoming the next statistic listed above. MEN \u00e2\u20ac\u201c Women are wired through emotion. If you are NOT emotionally connecting with your partner and so they feel that, do you really think they are going to want to get down and dirty? I wouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t. Not only emotionally, BUT if you are not helping your spouse, communicating or making her feel special that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s an automatic tap out in the ring of romance. By The Way: Women cheat too. Research tends to focus on men more HOWEVER studies are showing that women can be just as guilty. Why cheat? Sometimes it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s because we just aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t getting our needs met in our current relationship.<\/p>\n

I am NOT condoning cheating at all BUT I am just saying we all do things for a reason. I often hear well why do I have to do this? Why do *I* have to do EVERYTHING? Here\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the deal, unless one aspect of behavior changes nothing will change. If you’d like things to change then WE have to change our behavior. It shouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t be tit for tat it should be \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I love this person and I want to make things better.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d So, Kassandra, you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve laid this all out\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Nothing that I haven\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t heard before\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 So now what?? Below I am going to give you a list of 10 simple things you can implement to increase your intimacy and connection with your partner! If you can only do three then do three! Anything is better than nothing and you automatically get an A+ for effort! This list might be a little different then what you expected! Alright, here We GO!<\/p>\n

10 THINGS TO REIGNITE MY SEX LIFE AND CONNECTION 1. REGULATION What the heck is regulation? It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a psychological term that we use in the clinic I work at. Regulation depends on things that our bodies need to function mentally and physically well. So for instance, sleep and food. When we are not regulated \u00e2\u20ac\u201c (not taking care of our basic needs), we do not have the ability to be compassionate, kind and loving. Example: if I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m tired all the time because I am not sleeping well, how pleasant and fun am I going to be too be around? You need to be regulated FIRST before you can look to connect with someone else. BOTTOM LINE: Take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

Remember, you always put the oxygen mask on yourself first before you put it on anyone else. 2. TALK TIME What is talk time you ask? This is how you allocate 5-10 minutes of time within the day to be completely present with your partner. NO distractions, no kids, no TV and NO harsh topics that may cause a fight. This is an opportunity where both partners can feel really heard and regain that CONNECTION. Can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t find the time or don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t know how to do this? Try setting a timer on your phone or stove. Start with 5 minutes and continue to work your way up. BENEFITS: ladies, you will feel heard and your emotional cup will start to feel a bit fuller. Guys: if you take the time to fill your girl\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s emotional cup, she will more receptive to getting more physically closer..(Pillow talk). 3. CHORES I hate chores\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Especially doing the dishes and cleaning. Now, your home may be divided into assigned tasks for people, if so it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s time to shift the balance. IF you see your spouse doing the dishes, as opposed to sitting and watching TV, help her! Ladies, if your guy is doing the garbage and that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s \u00e2\u20ac\u0153HIS JOB\u00e2\u20ac\u009d help him anyways!<\/p>\n

When I say \u00e2\u20ac\u0153HELP\u00e2\u20ac\u009d I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean complain about doing it, or present as being unhappy\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 I mean find fun in the mundane. Maybe speak about how you first met or a really enjoyable time you have had together. WHY: When we find a connection in the mundane things we have to do in life, it not only fills our emotional cup, it makes the activity fun and less of a chore AND most importantly helps us to feel appreciated and interested in. 4. PHYSICAL CLOSENESS ( Not quite \u00e2\u20ac\u0153PILLOW TALK\u00e2\u20ac\u009d yet!) Some people love to touch\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 some people hate to touch. Most people enjoy touch when they have sore muscles or joints. If you know your lover is a touchy person, make the time to find appropriate opportunities to hold a hand, touch the shoulder or back, hand on leg\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 you will get the idea! You know what your partner likes. IF physical touch has not been in the ring for a while this may feel unnatural or \u00e2\u20ac\u0153FAKE.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d We need to be able to step out of our comfort zones in order to replace unhealthy patterns. The more you do it, the more genuine it will feel. IF you are with someone who doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like touch (or it would be too hard to do right away) offer other ways to connect \u00e2\u20ac\u201c one simple question: How can I help? That my friend\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s is like word porn to most women. Other ways to implement physical closeness: massage, cuddles, hugs. BENEFIT: many people can feel physically disconnected. Before we jump into full on \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Pillow Talk\u00e2\u20ac\u009d some people need to be reminded of how good physical touch can feel and how much they really missed it. 5. ACTS OF KINDNESS Some people love gifts.<\/p>\n

Gifts do not have to be material things. A gift may be something as simple as: \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Hey, Hun, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll watch the kids so you can have a shower without someone bugging you.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d ( ONE of the greatest gifts my husband gives me). Or it can be a love note, some chocolates, case of beer etc. You will get my drift. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have to be something huge and gifts don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t only have to come on birthdays and special holidays. BENEFIT: feeling appreciated and loved. Many people say to me, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t even think they think of me or care.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Well, here\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s your proof \u00e2\u20ac\u201c they do. PS: surprises make gifts extra special.<\/p>\n

6. DO SOMETHING THAT INTERESTS BOTH OF YOU ( OR JUST PRETEND) My husband loves motorcycles. I can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t say that I am a super fan\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6BUT whenever there is a motorcycle trade show or place he wants to go, I always jump on board without complaint. Why? Because I am showing him that I care about what his interests are. What does this translate too? It really means: I care about you and your interests. 7. CONFIDENCE I definitely lost my game after I had my daughter. I didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t feel good about how I looked and I always felt just exhausted. I stopped taking care of myself.<\/p>\n

This became area of contention in my relationship. Life happens, we go through things, but that doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that we just stop and settle. Enhance your confidence! Wear that lipstick you used to love, get your hair done, groom yourself (guys this is for you too). BENEFIT: not only will you feel better about yourself, but your partner will notice that you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re putting more effort into yourself and really LOVING yourself. How sexy is that? 8) SET THE MOOD Now, you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve tried the above ideas all week, things are starting to look a little brighter in your relationship. Before you rush into \u00e2\u20ac\u0153getting it done\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6\u00e2\u20ac\u009d set the mood. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have to be flowers, candles, and chocolates. It can be: a truly awesome day of connection with the family, it can be doing an activity together that you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve enjoyed \u00e2\u20ac\u201c whatever you believe would put you guys in a positive mood is what will work best. Try to avoid fights and arguments and be the bigger person! 9) CHANGE UP THE OLD \u00e2\u20ac\u0153PILLOW TALK\u00e2\u20ac\u009d ROUTINE \u00e2\u20ac\u201c BE ADVENTUROUS So you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve been together awhile. Sometimes things get a bit boring and routine.<\/p>\n

Change it up! Make the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153pillow talk\u00e2\u20ac\u009d experience more exciting! Maybe some sexy lingerie? Maybe more foreplay? Maybe toys? Maybe a new location? Different positions? Whatever you choose! ( Just make sure your partner will be on board with the adventure). BENEFIT: when we try new things together, we feel more secure and safe in our relationship\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 not only are we getting our physical and emotional needs met but we are also exploring new experiences and sensations together.<\/p>\n

The more SATISFYING our pillow talk is, the more we will want it! 10) JUMPING RIGHT INTO \u00e2\u20ac\u0153PILLOW TALK\u00e2\u20ac\u009d I caution this one especially if there have been unresolved emotional hurts. Remember, sometimes it takes us time to re-build trust and connection\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6BUT if you feel that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what you need to do then just DO IT! Sometimes unleashing our physical desires can really facilitate all the things mentioned above\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 just depends on you and your partner. BENEFIT: all that sexual tension will be gone.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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